The Givers and the Takers - Hardcover

Evatt, Cris; Feld, Bruce

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9780025366909: The Givers and the Takers

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 0025366904 ISBN 13: 9780025366909

Publisher: Macmillan Pub Co, 1983

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Describes the characteristics of the fundamental personality types and offers advice on methods for avoiding manipulative behavior in romantic relationships

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The Papaya Edition is a revised and abridged edition of "The Givers and The Takers," formerly published by Macmillan in hardback and Fawcett in paperback. The authors received many requests for their book, so are bringing it back to the public. Papaya Press plans to publish Evatt’s book, "Byron Katie’s How to Stop Arguing with Reality" in the Winter of 2002. Look for it on Amazon.com.

From the Author:

One morning, while I was making toast, a loud inner voice yelled at me, "There are two kinds of people in the world—Givers and Takers. And you’re a heavy Giver who is sexually attracted to heavy Takers." I was stunned by the voice’s message. At the time, I was taking a two-year relationship break, after six failed unions and puddles of tears.

Next, the Voice said, "Quick, get a pen and some large index cards...draw a vertical line down the center of thirty cards...make two columns. Now, write ‘Takers’ at the top of the left hand columns and ‘Givers’ at the top of the right columns. Each card is for a behavior. Write one behavior at the top of each card." I wrote apologizing, breaking up, changing people, communication, control, feelings, friendships, giving orders, intimidation, jealousy, love addiction, pleasing, posture, sex appeal, trusting, careers, and so on.

For a month, the Voice and I filled out the cards which defined the quirky behaviors of the Givers and Takers. After that, I never saw people or myself the same. I dropped my heavy Giver ways and became a balanced woman.

In Chapter Two, I describe the thirty Giver-Taker traits that were revealed to me by the Voice. If you study them, you will be able to identify a Giver or a Taker from across the street. Really!

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